KISS ME
GOD LOVE SEX – Part 1
February 22, 2009
Here are the notes from this past Sunday's first message in the series GOD LOVE SEX. We'll continue the series this weekend.
Three Viewpoints on Sex and Sexuality:
1. Sex is god (Romans 1:25, Jeremiah 2:13).
Here are the stats:
Pornography is $97 billion dollar a year global industry.
Americans spend somewhere between $12 – 14 billion dollars a year on porn.
How much money is that?
The revenue off pornography in America exceeds the combined revenues of ABC, CBS and NBC.
According to one source, we spend more money on porn than we spend on Pro-Baseball, Pro-Basketball and Pro-Football combined.
According to US News and World Report, more money is spent each year on porn than on country music, rock music, jazz, classical, Broadway plays and ballet combined.
Every second - $3,075.64 is being spent on pornography…
Every second - 28,258 Internet users are viewing porn…
Every second - 372 Internet users are typing words into search engines looking for more porn…
More than 200 porn films are made in the US every week! That’s more than one an hour. In fact, it’s one every 39 minutes.
72% of those who view porn are men. The other 28% are women… It’s no longer just a “men’s problem.” It’s everyone’s problem.
The average age of a person’s first exposure to porn via the Internet is 11 years of age… Eleven. It’s usually unintentional, but it happens. (Most of these stats come from Family Safe Media.)
Romans 1:25 (ESV), …they exchanged the truth about God for a lie and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever!
2. Sex is sinful, ugly and dirty.
3. Sex is a gift.
Genesis 2:23 (LB), “This is it!” Adam exclaimed. “She is part of my own bone and flesh! Her name is ‘woman’ because she was taken out of a man.”
Genesis 2:24-25 (ESV), Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. 25 And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
A Couple of Important Principles Flow Out Of These Passages:
• God made us. He created our bodies. He made us male and female and said, “It’s GOOD.”
It’s not like God finished creation, decided to take a day off, walked back into the garden a day lady, found Adam and Eve and said to Himself, “Oh, my goodness. What are they doing? If I’d known they would have come with that, I would have redesigned their plumbing.”
Absolutely not! Sex and sexuality were God’s idea.
• God designed heterosexual marriage as the context in which sex is to be experienced and enjoyed.
Why God Created Sex?
• For pleasure (Proverbs 5:18-19).
• For children (Genesis 1:28).
• To help foster “oneness” (Genesis 2:24).
• As a means of comforting your spouse (2 Sam.12:24).
• For protection against immorality (1 Corinthians 7:1-8).
SOS 1:1 (ESV), The Song of Songs, which is Solomon's.
An Overview of the SOS:
• A collection of poetic love songs or love letters written by Solomon 3,000 years ago.
• It was probably written when Solomon was a young man, before he descended into polygamy and all kinds of immorality.
• The three main characters in the book are:
- King Solomon
- Solomon’s Bride (the Shulammite)
- the Bride’s friends (an imaginary chorus that are sometimes gets referred to as “the daughters of Jerusalem.”)
• Because it is a book of poetry, it doesn’t flow in chronological order. It’s almost like whoever wrote the book, had his iPod on “shuffle.”
• Finally, the Song of Solomon is an ALL OUT CELEBRATION of romance, relationships, passion and SEX within the context of marriage...
Wisdom on Relationships from the SOS:
1. Desire and passion are gifts from God.
(Bride) SOS 1:2 (ESV), Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth! For your love is better than wine…
2. Physical attraction matters, but character is HUGE.
(Bride) SOS 1:3 (NLT), How fragrant your cologne, and how pleasing your name! No wonder all the young women love you!
(Bride) SOS 1:4 (ESV), Draw me after you; let us run. The king has brought me into his chambers.
(Friends) SOS 1:4b (ESV), We will exult and rejoice in you; we will extol your love more than wine; rightly do they love you.
3. Most women struggle with insecurity when it comes to physical appearance (SOS 1:5-6).
4. Your spouse needs to be your standard of beauty.
(Solomon) SOS 1:9-10 (ESV), I compare you, my love, to a mare among Pharaoh's chariots. 10 Your cheeks are lovely with ornaments, your neck with strings of jewels. 11 We will make for you ornaments of gold, studded with silver.
(Solomon) SOS 1:15 (ESV), Behold, you are beautiful, my love; behold, you are beautiful; your eyes are doves.
(Bride) SOS 1:16-17 (NIrV), You are so handsome, my love! So charming! The green field is our bed. 17 Cedar trees above us are the beams of our house. Fir trees overhead are its rafters.
(Bride) SOS 2:1 (ESV), I am a rose of Sharon, a lily of the valleys.
5. There will always be tons of stuff that needs to be done, make your spouse a top priority (SOS 1:7-8).
6. Marriage was designed to be an oasis in the middle of a desert.
(Bride) SOS 1:12-14 (NLT), The king is lying on his couch, enchanted by the fragrance of my perfume. 13 My lover is like a sachet of myrrh lying between my breasts. 14 He is like a bouquet of flowers in the gardens of En-gedi.
(Solomon) SOS 2:2 (NIrV), My love, among the young women you are like a lily among thorns.
The ultimate purpose of a Christian marriage is to glorify God.
I love the way Charlie Peacock describes God’s intention for marriage in his new book, New Way To Be Human. He makes the following statement:
“…marriage is a public act… …marriage should be a festive celebration of the Art of God. A marriage should say to the world, “Look at God’s brilliance! Look at how he tells beautiful stories through broken people!” ~ Charlie Peacock, New Way To Be Human
Recommended Resources:
Intimacy Ignited by Dillow & Pintus;
The Book of Romance by Tommy Nelson
The Peasant Princess Audio Series by Mark Driscoll of Mars Hill Church
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